Why ask Questions? An Inquiry Based Approach to Life

This past week I had the wonderful opportunity to sit and listen to my 12 year old daughter present a student self evaluation at her school. She attends a wonderful experiential, private school that is geared towards developing her character, her intellect and her creativity. (Foothills School of the Arts and Science) This school uses an inquiry based curriculum in which they promote the idea that asking questions is a powerful way to learn.

I have spent a far amount of my life asking questions. To some of my close friends, they will chuckle reading this, as often I will start my sentences with, “I have a question….” However, I have found questions to be a wonderful vehicle to help me explore ideas, themes, emotions, thoughts, and spiritual perspectives from a place of playfulness and introspection.

Seeing that my 12 year old has developed this in all areas of her learning has been such a gift. She is articulate, intelligent and very perceptive because of her educational process of asking questions.

I can’t help that I ask a lot of questions, and I can’t help addressing questions to some of my clients. I don’t have the answers, only that I know the question itself is a tool to deepen awareness. If I don’t get attached to finding an answer, I find more information is discovered and this is very compelling to me. Questions motivate me to get clear about what it is that I know, what it is that I want to say, and what it is that I don’t know!

The question itself often pushes me to find an answer, but more often it moves me in a direction which inspires me. I love to dig deeper and I like to ask others to help me shine more insight into what it is that I am playing with.

One thing my daughter shared in her conference was that the reason she likes to ask questions is that there are no right answers. And in dialoguing with her classmates, she not only hears her own thoughts, but the thoughts of others. This expands her own understanding and she feels even more interested by the topic at hand. What a wonderful way to engage in the educational process.

In Math, there are right and wrong answers, but in the deep questions about life itself – our answers are just as unique as we are. While we need some consistent rules and laws about life, I think that we also need mystery, contemplation and exploration just as much.

I am delighted that my daughter knows it is okay to ask questions. At her young fresh age she feels inspired and engaged in her world. I hope that we all follow the lead of being inquisitive, and allow ourselves to continue asking OUR most important questions, whatever they may be.

Sandra Wood is founder and owner of Inner Path Coaching, LLC. She coaches individuals who are struggling with relationships and career and want a balanced and empowered life.

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The Still Point of the Turning World

“At the still point of the turning world…
there the dance is…
Except for the point, the still point,
There would be no dance, and there is only the dance.”
(T.S. Eliot)

Awareness is like a never ending deepening pool. It isn’t mysterious, but it often feels complicated to me. It is simply where you put your attention and what you see there. Often, sometimes what I see there confuses me. There are too many characters!

One thing that I have learned is that the best way to approach awareness is from a space of non-judgment. Sometimes this is difficult for me. It usually isn’t my challenges that present the problem; it is my self-judgment that creates internal noise, and all the internal selves reacting and responding to my life events. I am often challenged by belief systems, old hurts and patterns that often muck up the waters of clear awareness.

Today in my weekly Sunday dance class it was suggested by the facilitator that we realize how often our bodies change movement according to the mood and energy of the music we are listening to. I have played with this idea often while dancing, sometimes slowing myself during intense rhythm in order to find another way of being with the vibrant beat of the music.

I have noticed in my life how easily swayed I can be by the external “music” – grumpy children, financial concerns, a sad friend… All these things can easily sway me into a place where I am dancing to music that I don’t want to. Add these challenges to that inner choir or critical “selves” that reside within me, and I am certainly in a space of feeling overwhelmed. However, often, I begin to realize that while there is a noisy chorus of emotions and thoughts, there is a place that is not swayed by the music.

Somewhere within me is a self, a presence, that doesn’t fall over with the intense music of life. If I did not have this presence, I think I would stay stuck in self- judgment and all the events of my life. I can’t really see her as readily as I can see other parts of myself because she is much quieter and often gets overshadowed. However, I think she is the strongest part of who I am.

Sometimes, I just happen upon her and discover her complete lack of concern for my life conditions. She doesn’t care if my house is clean, if anyone else around her is happy, if the day is cloudy or sunny. She is simply there, timeless, and expansive in her ability to be present to all that life is at that moment. I am grateful for her presence. She reminds me that all of life is changing, ever evolving and can never be counted on to be a particular way. I find sanctuary in her presence, knowing that there is nothing to do, to get, to understand in order for me to exist, in order for me to be okay. She reminds me that I am okay, regardless of the conditions of my life and how “well” I am handling them. Many people would label her my Higher Self, or my Authentic Self. It isn’t important to me what I call her, only that she is there. It is so easy to forget her. However, when I remember to shine my light of awareness deep down into the mucky muck of my interior landscape, I see her steadfastness and her quiet love. Even if it is for a fleeting moment, I am able to remember her. It is a gift to be aware, and one that I know I will journey with all my years on this planet. I take it light, and I take it deep, and I am ever so grateful that this quiet presence remains my constant companion.

Sandra Wood is founder and owner of Inner Path Coaching, LLC. She coaches individuals who are struggling with relationships and career and want a balanced and empowered life.

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