I have spent the last four years traveling through many different modalities of healing to deepen my understanding of self. I have watched and noticed the same question arise as I have worked with counselors, healers and intuitive advisors. While I have learned a tremendous amount about myself through my work with them, I continue to listen to a familiar thread. That voice within me persists to point to my own wisdom as a far more solid place to build my life upon. When I rely too much on my advisors or healers, I am in fact creating what I most am working to avoid, co-dependence.
I have always pondered how to avoid co-dependent behavior while still being able to connect and find support through my relationships with others. To me, this is a very fine line and one I have to continually watch myself walk.
Throughout my life I have given much of my own power away when I allowed another person’s input or concept of what my journey to authentic self meant. In teaching boundary classes to our local community, I am consistently showing others how much we invade each other’s realities by assuming that we know what another person is thinking and feeling.
In our society these days, we as a collective are becoming much more intuitive. I, myself, have gained much understanding and awareness through my own growing intuition. What continues to surface is this question: Is it TRULY helpful to point out and show others deeper things about themselves if they themselves have not arrived at that understanding? And are we adding in our own interpretation when we give others our insight into their reality?
This question has me probing into the meaning of “healer” and wondering if we assume too much when we think that others are “broken” and need to be fixed. Isn’t the human journey very much about discovering who we are through our less than perfect experiences?
For me personally, I have found that when I am reaching to “fix” another person, I am in fact gaining power through the vision that I am “helpful” and I use that to make myself feel good. Of course serving others is powerful and what we humans typically strive to do. However, reflecting on our intention is a way for us to see what we are trying to fix outside of ourselves. Often times, I discover that human suffering is our path to healing and when we jump in and give others too much of our interpretation we in fact derail them from arriving at the destination that they were choosing.
I continue to arrive again and again in a place where I let go of needing others to tell me what my authentic self knows and how I should proceed forward with my life. In trusting my own imperfect interpretation of my life as flawed as it might be, at least it is my own. This gives me a deeper sense of self confidence and perhaps this is the true path to discovering my authentic self. I am most curious to discover if other healers and intuitive advisors have questioned this within themselves as well when they are working with others. The internal landscape of each person is so vast and intricate – I only hope that we can become more sensitive and aware that each person has their own answers, as I am discovering within myself.
Sandra Wood is founder and owner of Inner Path Coaching, LLC. She coaches individuals who are struggling with relationships and career and want a balanced and empowered life.
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